How do you make a scary decision, especially as one as big as choosing gastric bypass RNY weight loss surgery?
Principle 7 is all about Decision. We have to chose something, some sort of path forward.
But what if it’s the wrong one? I know that fear intimately.
I spent years choosing the wrong husband, the wrong diet plan, and the wrong path in life, in general.
It got to the point where I started telling myself to always choose the opposite of what I gravitated toward. My ex-husband would reinforce this idea, as well, constantly telling me I was doing things wrong.
It’s been a hard road back to trusting my instinct, and having enough self-esteem and courage to make decisions again.
And look where I am now! In an AMAZING place! Maybe my decisions weren’t that bad after all.
So, how do you make a scary decision, like what diet or exercise plan to follow?
Overcome Your Fears
We talked about how to overcome fears in order to decrease our stress in another post. And we covered the 5 actionable steps to overcome those fears.
Getting fear out of the way will lead to a much easier time making a decision.
The steps to getting over your fears are similar to making good decisions, especially when we cannot know all of the information we think we need.
Do The Research On Your Scary Decision
Read whatever you can get your hands on around the decision you want to make. In the world of weight loss, this looks like reading up on the different diets available.
Look through the recipes in that diet to see if this is something you even think you’ll want to eat.
Ask people who’ve gone before you. What was their experience? Do they have any advice or regrets?
Consider The Good Decisions You’ve Made In The Past
Think back and reflect on the things you’ve done right before. What are the great things going on in your life now? What decisions did you make to get where you are?
You’ve done this before. You’re no stranger to making tough or scary decisions. Use your past experience of good decision making to help propel you forward.
Keeping a journal is a really helpful tool for making future decisions. You have 20/20 vision looking backward. So, you can see what made those decisions good or bad.
And you can use that information to help you make this scary decision now. Did you get that day-planner yet?
Refer Back To Your End Goal And The Rough Plan You Have To Get There
When we are faced with having to make a scary decision, we can often let our emotions take the wheel. Don’t let that happen.
You have a goal. You have a general idea of how to get to that goal.
The more detailed you made your goal, the better idea you’ll have about making the decision on how to get there.
If you’re frightened at the decision-making time, maybe you need to detail your goal better.
Go back, and really think about every tiny detail around your goal.
Once you’ve really filled in your detail, the decision will often become obvious and easy.
Complete A SWOT Analysis On Yourself To Determine The Best Decision
A SWOT analysis is where we plot out our strengths, weaknesses, opportunities, and threats in the business world.
You can absolutely do this in your own life as well.
When you just have your own strengths and weaknesses listed out, that in itself can help point you to the right decision.
You should play to both your strengths and weaknesses all the time, but first you have to know what they are. This is definitely time well-spent.
Write Out The Worst Case Scenario and The Best Case Scenario For Your Scary Decision
Sometimes walking through what would happen next after you made the decision can make the scary decision easy. Or, it can make you realize that it was scary because it was wrong.
When you take the time to walk through what could happen – both good and bad – you can see threats or opportunities you couldn’t see before.
Taking a minute to think and plan is a great idea. It’s good in the business world, even when co-workers may want to rush ahead in order to complete a project.
But it’s really good practice in your private life.
Say A Prayer
Saying a prayer and asking to receive a calm feeling if you are making the right choice is a great idea. Faith, one of the principles in our Think and Lose Weight Series, really comes into play here.
We have to have some kind of higher power in our lives. Whether it be the Universe or God, we know we are not the end all, be all. There is something greater than each of us.
Reach out and ask for guidance. You might be surprised at what you get.
Choose Something, Even If It Is A Scary Decision
The most important thing is to take some sort of action. You will never know if it is the wrong choice until you have made a choice.
Use the information you have available, whatever it is, with your goal in mind, and choose.
Making the choice is something that you need to do. Don’t worry.
Stay Flexible In Order To Pivot
Sometimes, even through all our efforts, we quickly find that we made the wrong choice. Staying flexible and being able to pivot to a different decision is essential.
That means you cannot be emotionally tied to your decisions if you want to remain flexible.
Stay positive, and know that everything will work out in the end. Sometimes even our horrible decisions have a great end result.
Wrap up – Making Scary Decisions Isn’t So Scary
Staying in the same situation you are in now is likely a worse scenario than making change. Change is scary because it is unknown.
Your situation, no matter how bad it is, feels familiar. And so less scary.
Make the big jump into the unknown to change your life. I had weight loss surgery, got divorced after a decade of crappy marriage, and am a completely different person than I was 5 years ago.
I have an amazing new husband, two beautiful babies, and a farm I didn’t know I needed in my life.
I’d make that scary decision OVER AND OVER AND OVER again.
Don’t be afraid of living your own life.
As always, happy weight loss <3
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