Why Do I Keep Giving Up On Weight Loss? Everything I try, I fail, or give up on. Why? And how do I stop?
Principle 8 is all about Persistence. We have to stick to this in order to see results. You know that, and I know that.
The last principle we talked about in the Think and Lose Weight Series was Decision. This principle is all about sticking to that decision.
But how does someone actually do that?
(This is a personal reminder to myself, here. So, just know, you are in really good company with me on this principle.)
Also, just a reminder… I’m kind of a weird-o. I read A LOT, and don’t always think the same way as others. So, in this principle, we’re going backward.
If you haven’t been through the steps in Think and Lose Weight, and this is your first introduction to the concept, go to Principle 1 and start from the beginning so you don’t keep giving up on weight loss.
If you’re ready to move on in this principle, let’s still revisit where we’ve been back at principle 1.
The Steps To Persistence
By looking back at where we’ve been, we feel better about moving forward. Even if the scale isn’t moving.
Follow these steps to learn how to be persistent to stop giving up on weight loss:
1. Go Back Through Principles 1-7 To See Why You Are Giving Up On Weight Loss
Walking through each of these steps is actually setting the foundation for Persistence. When, not if, but WHEN you hit the wall, and decide you just can’t do this anymore, go back through the other principles to find out why.
Maybe your desire has changed. And it’s time to revisit the over-arching “Why” that motivates you.
You’ve been learning new knowledge, so maybe it’s time to change the recipes you’re using to keep things interesting.
Are you tempted to pull up your seedling after two weeks and start again? Remember in the Faith principle, we talked about giving this enough time.
Are you talking to yourself, and cheerleading yourself? In the autosuggestion/self-suggestion section we talked about how to use affirmations and mantras. Are you using those? Do you need to find new ones?
What happened in your plan where you veered off? Do you need to course correct and figure out what went wrong?
Did you do the 30/70 Strategy? Are you setting your expectations too high? Maybe it’s time to back them down.
2. Take Baby Steps So You Don’t Keep Giving Up On Weight Loss
Remember our 30/70 Strategy. If you decided to start checking off all 10 goals every single day, you may be overwhelmed. I hit my weight loss goals, and am maintaining. I rarely hit all 10 every day.
You don’t need to be perfect. Don’t be afraid to start small.
Having an all or nothing attitude toward weight loss is the Binge Eating/Food Addiction attitude. And it leads right back to those behaviors.
You are here to fail more than to succeed at first. Take joy in your failures, because you now know what series of events leads to failure. So, now you can look at why you failed. What could you do differently next time to get a success?
3. Eat The Foods That Make Only Your Body Feel Good, Not Your Spirit
When we eat meals that are mostly protein, then vegetables, a small amount of carbs, and only cooked in fats (i.e. butter and olive oil), our bodies feel better. These foods have everything our bodies need.
Use self-care to fuel the mind and spirit. Don’t eat to “Feel Better”. Eat to fuel your body.
Are you eating 6 small meals a day, 3 hours apart, portioned out to half the size of your palm? Proteins first, then vegetables, a small amount of carbs, and cooked in fats? Sugar creeps in, and can cause weight stalls.
Related: How To Fuel Your Body To Lose Weight
4. Use The Dang Day-Planner…
Once you actually start using the day-planner to track what’s going on in your life, you can use it to motivate your persistence. If only just to fill in the day-planner itself.
Look back at your data. Have you ever seen any progress? What did you do on those days? Download the weight tracker spreadsheet, log your data, and see the results on the graph.
What days were up, what days were down, what days didn’t move, and what happened those days?
The day-planner is amazing if you put your feelings in there, too. If you put down that you felt GREAT on Monday, when you ate on plan, and FEELING DOWN on Tuesday when you had a lot of triggers, that can really help illustrate what motivates you.
Using your personal motivation is the best way to learn persistence and stop giving up on weight loss.
My life really started to go in the right direction once I started writing everything in the planner.
5. Ask Yourself Why This Isn’t Working For You And Why You Want To Give Up On Weight Loss
If you haven’t seen progress, have you seen a doctor or a nutritionist? There may be something inside that needs some medical intervention.
Are you being too restrictive? Remember, too much restriction leads to bingeing.
Here’s a new trick: If you’re craving something, tell yourself if you’re still craving it in 3 hours, you can have it.
An example of this is me with M&Ms. I oddly have a craving for M&Ms sometimes. Any flavor.
I think it’s just the small treat, or maybe my internal self pushing boundaries in order to rebel.
There’s nothing to rebel against. In 3 hours, if I still want M&Ms, I will have them. I will savor them, though. Not scarf them down, barely tasting them.
This is not a punishment. This is a successful way of eating. Food is just Food.
Are you paying enough attention to your spirit? Is that what needs fuel?
6. Remember To Have Grit
In the autosuggestion principle, we talked about my personal mantra: GRIT. Guts, Resilience, Initiative, Tenacity.
Which one are you struggling with right now? Why?
Get out your journal, and write it down. You need to get it out of your system, and you need to write out your road map for the next time you are faced with wanting to quit.
Leave yourself the support you need to succeed.
7. Use The Alarms On Your Phone
I was often told my memory was such garbage. I was told that for so many years, that I wonder if it actually made my memory garbage.
Seriously. I would forget that I’d made a plan to diet. Until I was elbow deep in a fast food combo meal. Then I’d have guilt, shame, and feelings of worthlessness.
Who forgets they were dieting? Me… I have a better understanding of why now, but back then I just was hopeless.
Set your alarm for 15 minutes after you wake up, and name the alarm “CHECK YOUR PLANNER”.
Then, check your planner. You’ll be reminded of what’s going on in your life, and that you have a dream you’d like to make a reality.
And set alarms to eat every 3 hours.
I wouldn’t do more than that, though. Because if you’re anything like me, you’ll start ignoring any more alarms than that. Or snoozing them.
When you eat, though, remind yourself of what you’re doing. Maybe keep your journal in the fridge with your lunch. IT’s not going to hurt it to get a little cold.
But you’ll have a visual reminder when you reach for that food that you should track or write your feelings.
Persistence Is Just Remembering
Having persistence is just remembering what you’re going after. Alarm reminders, going back through the desire steps, eating another vision board – I mean charcutier board… these are all things that will help you be persistent.
Allowing for small failures is vital to keep going.
Be kind to yourself. You’re doing amazing! Especially if you’ve made it this far into the steps. This is Principle 8! You’re more than halfway there!
I’m so proud of you 🙂 I hope you are proud of you, too.
Happy Weight Loss <3
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